Model Paulina Porizkova has spilled details of a tumultuous three-year relationship with former President of the Beatles Beatles John Lennon’s ex-wife, Yoko Ono, saying she felt her relationship with Cars bassist Ric Ocasek nearly came to a bitter end when he became controlling and belittled her efforts at promoting her career.
“It was obviously very difficult when Ric came into my life,” Porizkova told People, “but at the same time it was very wonderful and incredible.” The two met in 1988 when Ocasek asked her out to dinner, and their romance quickly blossomed. “The first five years of our relationship were incredible because we just enjoyed each other’s company and we were in love,” Porizkova recalled.
Things heated up when Porizkova started building a solo career, a career which Ocasek, she says, didn’t want her to pursue. “I became very involved in this and I came out and I started this and I showed that I was in a better place and he was a little bit jealous and he would mention that,” she told People. “Even now I ask myself — you know, in a big film or TV show — so what would a child say if it was their mother and she was with someone else?”
At one point, the two argued about Porizkova’s “moving too fast and not being patient” with her music. “When it became apparent that he wasn’t in love with the real me and he wasn’t happy,” Porizkova explained, “and he didn’t want me to do anything, but he never said to me, ‘I can’t stand you,’ but that was very obvious, that was very clear to me.”
Porizkova said the situation came to a head in the summer of 1989 during a trip to Milan. The two were due to attend the French Open tennis tournament together, but they “had a terrible row that morning because he was upset at the thought of me going to Milan. He said, ‘You should never do this, you should never go.’ It became obvious that Ric was not supportive and that he wasn’t OK with me doing this career I was doing.”
“It was a domino effect,” Porizkova said. “He was upset about it and I was upset because I didn’t know what he meant by it.” Porizkova said she ultimately decided to fly to Milan on her own, but the encounter left her shaken, and she immediately canceled her appearance. “I was very angry and very scared,” she told People. “When you love someone, it doesn’t come down to ‘I want you to do this,’ or ‘I’m jealous.’ It’s a fragile thing. You love someone because you want them to do well, you want them to be happy. You want someone to give you a good time. So it’s very hard to be angry at someone for doing that.”
Porizkova met her husband-to-be two years later. The couple married in 1991, and they had a daughter together, Paulina Rose Ocasek Ocasek, in 1993. The family went on to have a son, Sebastian Louis Ocasek, in 1994.
In October of 1991, Apple released “Elastic Heart,” Ocasek’s first solo album without Porizkova. Although some reviews were positive, others were not, and the album did not top the charts, losing out to Michael Jackson’s “Bad.”